“If you became a parent, what kind of parent did you turn out to be — at school gates, at the kitchen table, on a hard day?”

“What did you come to be known for, in those years — at work, at home, among friends?”

“Tell me about a midlife moment of unexpected kindness from a stranger or near-stranger.”

“Was there a project, hobby, or quiet practice you began in midlife that's stayed with you?”