Chapter 9 of 10
Love, loss & resilience
the loves that shaped you, the losses you've carried, what kept you going.
№ 01
“Tell me about a love that shaped you.”
№ 02
“Is there a loss you've found a way to carry, that used to feel impossible?”
№ 03
“Tell me about the great love of your life — if there's been one.”
№ 04
“If there hasn't been a single great love — by choice or by chance — what kinds of love *have* there been?”
№ 05
“Tell me about a heartbreak you didn't think you'd survive.”
№ 06
“Was there a friendship that ended in a way you couldn't forgive — or that they couldn't?”
№ 07
“Tell me about the first person close to you who died.”
№ 08
“Tell me about the death you grieved longest.”
№ 09
“Was there a loss that wasn't a death — but felt like one?”
№ 10
“Tell me about a time in your life when you were truly afraid for someone you loved.”
№ 11
“Tell me about a difficult season in a marriage or long partnership — yours, or someone else's you watched.”
№ 12
“Was there a time you considered leaving — a partner, a job, a family, a country — and didn't?”
№ 13
“Tell me about a time you were lonely — the deep kind, not just on your own.”
№ 14
“Is there a regret you've made your peace with — and what did peace-making with it look like?”
№ 15
“Tell me about a betrayal — by a partner, friend, colleague, or institution — that took a long time to recover from.”
№ 16
“Was there an illness — yours or someone close to you — that changed everything?”
№ 17
“Tell me about a death you couldn't be at, or didn't get to say goodbye to.”
№ 18
“Was there a time you let someone down badly?”
№ 19
“Tell me about something you carried for years before you told anyone about it.”
№ 20
“Was there a time when you felt your life was unrecognisable to you — that you'd lost your shape?”
№ 21
“Tell me about something that broke — and didn't get fixed.”
№ 22
“Is there a person you weren't able to save — from grief, addiction, illness, themselves?”
№ 23
“Tell me about a kind word said to you at a low point that you've never forgotten.”
№ 24
“Is there a loss you've never quite mourned in the open?”
№ 25
“Looking back at the harder seasons of your life — taken together — what would you tell someone who's just entering one?”