Building a life
“What was your wedding day, or the day a great commitment began, actually like?”
Tips for asking
The clothes, the weather, the moment you'd most like to live again.
Listen for
Was the day itself smaller or bigger than the commitment turned out to be?
More from Building a life
“What was your first home as an adult like — the actual rooms, not the address?”
“How did you meet your partner — or the person you've come closest to spending your life with?”
“If you've never had a long partnership — by choice, by chance, or by circumstance — what has that shape of life given you that pairing wouldn't have?”