“What was your first big argument, as adults, with the person you'd just chosen to live with?”

“How did you meet your partner — or the person you've come closest to spending your life with?”

“If you've never had a long partnership — by choice, by chance, or by circumstance — what has that shape of life given you that pairing wouldn't have?”

“What did you imagine adult life would be when you were starting out — and how did real adult life differ?”